Tuesday, February 14, 2017

GAY MOVIE REVIEW – THE HAPPY SAD.

It’s been a while since I’ve done one of these…..! 





PLOT: While the trailer would have you believe this movie follows two couples equally - one black and gay (Marcus and Aaron), the other one white and heterosexual (Stan and Annie) - the movie primarily follows the lives of the white, heterosexuals as they break up and form new homosexual relationships apart from each other. Stan begins an affair with Marcus, while Annie begins a relationship with co-worker, Annie. And while the two couples try to ‘make it work,’ the lives of Stan’s and Annie’s new partners somehow manage to hurl the two back together – who then try to have an “open relationship” in an attempt to get back together – but at the expense of Marcus, Aaron, and Mandy as they each try to pick up the pieces of their respective relationships in the aftermath. Ultimately, it is not clear how each relationship ends up as the movie ends with a good time-skip later; all the main characters are seen together at a concert but whether they’ve broken up and remained friends or still together is vague.

REVIEW: I think I’m finally seeing what people mean when they say a movie is “trying too hard.” What it lacks in production capital, it tries to make up for in ‘depth’ and montages over musical numbers hoping to cover the many, many emotions these characters are going through while experimenting with other people. I think this movie definitely wants to say something about monogamy and how ‘confining’ it is, but I’m not sure what because the alternatives they try don’t seem to work out for them either. Plus, I wasn’t too keen on all the musical numbers (Stan is in a band, you guys!).

It just doesn’t work as a whole. Hard pass if you see it on any ‘recommended’ list. 

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What an odd (yet fitting?) post for Valentine’s Day! 

Monday, February 6, 2017

(PERSONAL) FUTURE WORRIES

A friend of mine was recently laid off from his job. He’s an older gentleman so he’s struggling right now to find a new job at his (previous) paygrade.

I feel for him, but aside from taking him out to lunch every so often, there’s not much else I can do.

It got me thinking about my careet and my future with Jeff. I have a primarily administrative job that *could* be done by someone else if it really needed to be – like my friend, I’m essentially replaceable. And if I can’t provide for us with my salary, where would that leave us?

This fear is exacerbated by the fact that I recently moved to a new position in my company – a new department, really – and it is not as “essential” as some others due the fact that it is new (and possibly expendable?).

If I get laid off one day, I wonder how I’ll fare in the jobs market? I REALLY do not want to be dumped back into that….but what if I have no choice?

Augh – just stressing over something I can’t do anything about. I am gaining a lot of skills right now and trying to learn as much as I can. It’s hard to think about the bleakness of tomorrow….especially in today’s climate.


FYI – trying to blog more now that I have the time. Jeff is also talking about me joining his friend, Angela’s, writing workshop. Not sure what I can contribute these days, but I’m trying to motivate myself to do it. 

Thursday, February 2, 2017

NEVER READ THE COMMENTS

I never post anything political online because I’m afraid of getting sucked into arguments. I’ve seen a lot of my friends do this since the election and the comments some of them get are horrifying. 
  •  One friend wrote a post advocating to delete the Uber app from their phone; the comments section of his post (135 and counting!) devolved into an argument over which media corporations are biased and what direction each of them lean.
  • Another friend wrote a post about the contradiction of the #AllLivesMatter slogan and the Muslim ban, only to be called a C-U-Next-Tuesday.
  • Another (closer) friend wrote a post about being pro-choice and ended up getting trolled by her own father-in-law. 
That last one really gets to me.


I don’t get this. I really I don’t. And I’m so afraid that the friends I have online (all of which I know and met in real life) will reveal themselves to be horrible Trump-defending conservatives who will turn their attentions on me.

Who has that kind of time?
Who has that kind of energy?

It seems that only bigots and angry, ANGRY internet trolls do….and they seem to be out in force right now.